“To be capable of critically evaluating a partner we would need to be able to stand back

and look critically at ourselves, at our needs, desires, and longings.

We fear that evaluating our needs and then carefully choosing partners will reveal that there is no one for us to love.

Most of us prefer to have a partner who is lacking than no partner at all.

What becomes apparent is that we may be more interested in finding a partner than in knowing love.”

[excerpt from “all about love” by bell hooks]

all about desire (2019) is the aftermath of multiple failed romantic relationships.

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